First of all, I would like to tell you that everything I say here has been said before. So, what I am going to tell you is something that I have been told to by someone else. You can refer to speakers like Aaron Doughty, Whitney Uland, Leo Gura etc.
The key to gaining magnetism is authenticity. It is about being yourself unapologetically. It is about being true to who you are, what your values are and what you stand by, your beliefs and not changing according to the environment you are placed in.
As a kid who was not confident about himself, I often tried to fit in with other people and ended up being a people pleaser. Luckily, I never did huge favors because I was selfish in terms of money(Lol to be honest). However, I did change certain aspects of my personality to fit in with other people.
Having faced rejection and abandonment as a kid, I often felt that something was inherently wrong with me. Maybe, there was some sort of shame hidden in my character because of which I felt like I needed to cover up.
What we forget is that other people have their own flaws. We are not here to gain their approval. We are here to be ourselves as freely as possible.
When you become your authentic self, when you express yourself freely, when you don’t care for other people’s approval, when you realize that other people are further drawn to you.
Also, you don’t care if other people like you or hate you, because you are good either way. So, its a win win from all sides.
People who are magnetic are those who don’t care if other people like them or not. They are not seeking validation or approval from others to know how good they are. They feel good about themselves naturally and have principles that they abide by.
Unfortunately, a lot of people confuse this with being an asshole. There is a fine line between being an asshole and being a confident person who knows what is good and what is not.
It is a good thing to set boundaries and not do unnecessary favors. As long as you are not harming anyone, you are absolutely fine in the eyes of God.
Remember, be true to yourself and be authentic. That is the key to gaining magnetism. That is how you become attractive.
Pic: Manafest’s song : Edge of my life.
